He imposed upon us when He said: “If any man will follow Me, let him deny himself.” And therefore I must draw this conclusion, that if I will not mortify myself with humility—that is to say, crush my self-love and craving for esteem—l shall. be excluded as a follower of Jesus Christ, and by such an exclusion I shall also forfeit His grace and be eternally exiled from participating In His glory.

But in order to practice it, it is necessary for me to do violence to myself. as it is written: “The kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent bear it away.” Who can obtain salvation, except by doing violence to himself?

Let us listen at the gates Of hell and hear the lamentations of the eternally damned. They exclaim: “What hath pride profited us? ” What use or advantage was our pride to us? Everything passes and vanishes like a shadow, and of all those past evils nothing remains to us but the eternal shame of having been proud. Their remorse is vain, because it is the remorse of despair.  –”Humility of Heart” by Capuchin Gaetano (Cajetan) Maria da Bergamo

Despair is NOT Godly, a denying of FAITH, HOPE, and CHARITY.