The exercise of self-denial presupposes, then, a profound objective: dying to self for the sake of union with God. What in this pursuit, in the loss of self demanded by is necessary love, at least as regards ascetical self-denial? Clearly, it is not to starve oneself to death. Rather, initially and difficult enough, it is to accept voluntary privations in one’s life; the more radical the better, albeit with common sense and a certain respect for moderation. A breaking free from attachments to comfort and pleasure calls for decisive choices. The task is not to search for painful experiences or harsh penances, but more to step back voluntarily from an easy life of pleasant enjoyments. This reduction of pleasure-seeking, of gratification of our impulsive desires, is always at first an exacting work. –‘Saint John of the Cross: Master of Contemplation’ by St John of the Cross